{"id":10205,"date":"2024-11-22T02:09:51","date_gmt":"2024-11-22T02:09:51","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/revistakuvendi.org\/?p=10205"},"modified":"2024-11-22T02:09:51","modified_gmt":"2024-11-22T02:09:51","slug":"prinder-prinderoni","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/revistakuvendi.org\/?p=10205","title":{"rendered":"PRINDER\u2026 PRINDERONI!"},"content":{"rendered":"\n
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Nga Inxhi Ali\u00e7kaj<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

S\u00eb pari, f\u00ebmij\u00ebt tan\u00eb i kemi l\u00ebshuar ne, i ka l\u00ebshuar familja (me dashje e padashje), e pastaj gjith\u00eb zinxhiri, shkolla, shteti\u2026 \u201cShoq\u00ebria po na i prish\u201d, themi secili, por kush e b\u00ebn k\u00ebt\u00eb shoq\u00ebri?!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

FAMILJA DHE PIKE!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cGjith\u00e7ka ta kam plot\u00ebsuar, \u00e7far\u00eb dreqin ke?\u201d, e d\u00ebgjojm\u00eb shpesh nga prind\u00ebr, e mendojm\u00eb se kaq mjafton\u2026. Dhe i kemi l\u00ebshuar f\u00ebmij\u00ebt tan\u00eb n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb kaos identiteti p\u00ebr ta, n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb terren t\u00eb dhunsh\u00ebm verbal, fizik e psikologjik, q\u00eb nis qysh nga komunikimi \u201cnormal\u201d i mamit e babit n\u00eb sht\u00ebpi, me ul\u00ebrima, sharje, e fjalor rruge, q\u00eb nis nga paaft\u00ebsia p\u00ebr t\u2019i d\u00ebgjuar e p\u00ebr t\u2019u p\u00ebrfshir\u00eb n\u00ebn l\u00ebkur\u00ebn e tyre, sepse \u201cs\u2019kemi koh\u00eb\u201d, n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb f\u00eblliq\u00ebsir\u00eb q\u00eb g\u00eblon, n\u00eb ato dreq rrjete sociale, q\u00eb ua mor\u00ebn gjith\u00eb lirin\u00eb e f\u00ebmij\u00ebs dhe i imponojn\u00eb t\u00eb imitojn\u00eb modelet e t\u00eb fort\u00ebve dhe degradimit, nga celular\u00eb q\u00eb vet ua blejm\u00eb e q\u00eb vet ua lem\u00eb t\u2019i mbajn\u00eb q\u00eb t\u00eb vegj\u00ebl, or\u00eb e pa or\u00eb, vet\u00ebm q\u00eb t\u00eb na l\u00ebn\u00eb pak rehat\u2026 (nuk po flas pastaj p\u00ebr rastet kur prind\u00ebrit mburren p\u00ebr \u201caft\u00ebsit\u00eb \u00e7udit\u00ebse\u201d t\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebs n\u00eb teknologji)!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

F\u00ebmij\u00ebt tan\u00eb i kemi l\u00ebshuar ne s\u00eb pari, para se t\u2019i k\u00ebrkojm\u00eb llogari m\u00ebsuesit, t\u00eb cilit shum\u00eb prej nesh ia kan\u00eb zeruar autoritetin, kur n\u00eb sy t\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebs s\u00eb tyre, i k\u00ebrkojn\u00eb llogari dhe e k\u00ebrc\u00ebnojn\u00eb\u2026 Kam 9 vjet q\u00eb shkoj n\u00eb mbledhje prind\u00ebrish dhe, sa e sa her\u00eb vij e shokuar nga ajo q\u00eb m\u00eb d\u00ebgjojn\u00eb vesh\u00ebt, nga shum\u00eb prind\u00ebr\u2026 \u201cKush je ti q\u00eb i flet f\u00ebmij\u00ebs tim ashtu?\u201d\u2026 e m\u00ebsues q\u00eb k\u00ebrkojn\u00eb falje, ose heshtin\u2026 Nx\u00ebn\u00ebs q\u00eb k\u00ebrc\u00ebnojn\u00eb m\u00ebsuesin: \u201cta tregon babi im ty\u201d\u2026 Prind\u00ebr, q\u00eb m\u00ebsuesit i thon\u00eb \u201chall i madh po s\u2019m\u00ebsoi, se nuk do e b\u00ebj shkenc\u00ebtar\u201d, e f\u00ebmij\u00eb q\u00eb nuk din\u00eb \u00e7\u2019jan\u00eb librat e shkoll\u00ebs e larg o zot t\u00eb mbajn\u00eb n\u00eb dor\u00eb ndonj\u00eb lib\u00ebr artistik a historik.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

F\u00ebmij\u00ebt tan\u00eb i kemi l\u00ebshuar ne s\u00eb pari, p\u00ebr sa koh\u00eb i llastojm\u00eb me teprica luksi t\u00eb shfrenuar, p\u00ebr sa koh\u00eb i veshim firmato, u mbushim xhepin me lek\u00eb q\u00eb n\u00eb 9- vjecare, pa e ditur ata vler\u00ebn e lekut e duke bullizuar shokun a shoqen. q\u00eb nuk i ka k\u00ebto mund\u00ebsi, kur standardi q\u00eb ata i vendosin shoqerizimit t\u00eb tyre me moshatar\u00eb, \u00ebsht\u00eb se cili nga baballar\u00ebt e ka m\u00eb t\u00eb shtrenjt\u00eb makin\u00ebn, sht\u00ebpin\u00eb apo vil\u00ebn e plazhit. E t\u00eb gjitha k\u00ebto ata i quajn\u00eb vlera, p\u00ebr sa koh\u00eb shohin q\u00eb edhe nga vet prind\u00ebrit e tyre kan\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb model, teksa f\u00ebmij\u00ebt i shohin q\u00eb turren pas k\u00ebsaj jete, baballar\u00eb q\u00eb sillen si t\u00eb fort\u00ebt e t\u00eb pamposhturit lagjes, e mendojn\u00eb se me pare blejn\u00eb gjith\u00e7ka, deri edhe f\u00ebmij\u00ebn e tyre, e n\u00ebna q\u00eb lahen, lyhen, zhg\u00ebrryhen e tjet\u00ebrsohen salloneve e honeve t\u00eb impostimit t\u00eb jet\u00ebs s\u00eb luksit, q\u00eb harxhojn\u00eb or\u00eb pafund e nerva p\u00ebr nj\u00eb fasad\u00eb t\u00eb bukur e nuk kan\u00eb koh\u00eb e nerva p\u00ebr t\u00eb folur thell\u00eb me f\u00ebmij\u00ebt e p\u00ebr t\u00eb duruar edhe shp\u00ebrthimet e tyre.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

F\u00ebmij\u00ebt tan\u00eb i kemi l\u00ebshuar ne s\u00eb pari, p\u00ebr sa koh\u00eb thjesht i rrisim, por nuk prind\u00ebrojm\u00eb dot. Se \u201cnuk kemi koh\u00eb, duhet t\u00eb vrapojm\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u2019i ushqyer\u201d, justifikohemi\u2026 \u201cSe ata kan\u00eb jet\u00ebn para, po ne ku jemi me jet\u00ebn ton\u00eb?, thot\u00eb dikush tjet\u00ebr\u2026 a thua se t\u00eb k\u00ebrkoi f\u00ebmija ta sillje n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb bot\u00eb\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n

F\u00ebmij\u00ebt tan\u00eb sot nuk arrijm\u00eb t\u2019i kontrollojm\u00eb dot, jemi t\u00eb paaft\u00eb t\u00eb flasim me ta, jemi t\u00eb paaft\u00eb t\u2019i orientojm\u00eb drejt vlerave, sepse po rriten nga prind\u00ebr e familje q\u00eb i kan\u00eb humbur k\u00ebto vlera, duke rendur n\u00eb vrapin e tyre. I kemi l\u00ebshuar n\u00eb dor\u00eb t\u00eb nj\u00eb ekrani telefoni dhe thjesht na ka mbetur t\u00eb themi \u201cZoti na ndihmoft\u00eb!\u201d\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I kemi lindur bebe t\u00eb \u00ebmbla, i rrisim mir\u00eb, por kur vall\u00eb i humbasim e nuk e dim\u00eb \u00e7\u2019b\u00ebhen e \u00e7\u2019b\u00ebjn\u00eb? Kur vall\u00eb na u b\u00ebn\u00eb t\u00eb fort\u00eb e t\u00eb pad\u00ebgjuar, kur u iku ndjeshm\u00ebria dhe njer\u00ebzill\u00ebku, e nis\u00ebn t\u00eb zihen, rrihen, t\u00eb shajn\u00eb, bullizojn\u00eb, k\u00ebrc\u00ebnojn\u00eb e deri edhe vrasin disa prej tyre\u2026 E pastaj dalin ekraneve krenar\u00eb e triumfator\u00eb? Kur ndodhi q\u00eb devijuan? Kur u tjet\u00ebrsuan? Kur nuk i njeh m\u00eb as prindi i vet k\u00ebta f\u00ebmij\u00eb, ende t\u00eb parritur? Kur i lam\u00eb t\u00eb na i gllab\u00ebronte e keqja? Kur e mor\u00ebn thik\u00ebn e kacavid\u00ebn n\u00eb dor\u00eb dhe shkel\u00ebn me k\u00ebmb\u00eb librat?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Kthejeni s\u00eb pari nga vetja refleksionin prind\u00ebr! F\u00ebmij\u00ebn e humbet kur l\u00ebshon prind\u00ebrimin n\u00eb \u00e7do aspekt, me dashje a padashje\u2026Nuk p\u00ebrgjith\u00ebsoj t\u00eb gjith\u00eb, e as them se \u00ebsht\u00eb e leht\u00eb e kaq bardh\u00eb e zi, t\u00eb prind\u00ebrosh n\u00eb dit\u00ebt e sotme, por edhe pse n\u00eb minoranc\u00eb ndoshta, dua t\u00eb besoj se jemi plot\u00eb q\u00eb luftojm\u00eb t\u00eb prind\u00ebrojm\u00eb dhe jemi n\u00eb koh\u00eb q\u00eb t\u00eb b\u00ebhemi shum\u00eb e m\u00eb shum\u00eb\u2026 Jemi plot q\u00eb vuajm\u00eb shpesh bullizimin tek f\u00ebmij\u00ebt tan\u00eb, tek na vijn\u00eb n\u00eb sht\u00ebpi mbushur frik\u00ebra dhe m\u00ebrzi, por s\u00ebrish, p\u00ebr asnj\u00eb moment, nuk ua nxisim gjuh\u00ebn e dhun\u00ebs, forc\u00ebs apo zgjidhjeve ekstreme, por ju flasim p\u00ebr qet\u00ebsin\u00eb, toleranc\u00ebn dhe empatin\u00eb, luftojm\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb shuar mllefin e tyre dhe zbutur sedr\u00ebn e tyre t\u00eb l\u00ebnduar f\u00ebminore, ju flasim p\u00ebr t\u00eb mos u ndikuar dhe\u2026 sigurisht lusim Zotin t\u00eb na ndihmoj\u00eb n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb mision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

E mund t\u00eb kemi patur dilemat tona n\u00eb ndonj\u00eb rast, n\u00ebse po b\u00ebjm\u00eb mir\u00eb me k\u00ebt\u00eb form\u00eb prind\u00ebrimi, n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb turm\u00eb t\u00eb dhunshme, por ngjarjet e fundit na p\u00ebrforcojn\u00eb mendimin dhe forc\u00ebn se, vet\u00ebm k\u00ebshtu mund t\u2019ua shp\u00ebtojm\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebrin\u00eb dhe adoleshenc\u00ebn f\u00ebmij\u00ebve tan\u00eb\u2026 Vet\u00ebm me forc\u00ebn e familjes dhe t\u00eb prind\u00ebrimit\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n

T\u00eb tjerat, shkolla, shteti, qeveria, shoq\u00ebria, hallkat e tjera, kan\u00eb zullumet e mynxyrat e tyre, q\u00eb ve\u00e7 Zoti ua leht\u00ebsoft\u00eb\u2026! Nuk po hyj k\u00ebtu sot\u2026<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Nga Inxhi Ali\u00e7kaj S\u00eb pari, f\u00ebmij\u00ebt tan\u00eb i kemi l\u00ebshuar ne, i ka l\u00ebshuar familja (me dashje e padashje), e pastaj gjith\u00eb zinxhiri, shkolla, shteti\u2026 \u201cShoq\u00ebria po na i prish\u201d, themi secili, por kush e b\u00ebn k\u00ebt\u00eb shoq\u00ebri?! FAMILJA DHE PIKE! \u201cGjith\u00e7ka ta kam plot\u00ebsuar, \u00e7far\u00eb dreqin ke?\u201d, e d\u00ebgjojm\u00eb shpesh nga prind\u00ebr, e mendojm\u00eb…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":10206,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[11],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-10205","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-publicistike"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/revistakuvendi.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/10205","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/revistakuvendi.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/revistakuvendi.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/revistakuvendi.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/revistakuvendi.org\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=10205"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/revistakuvendi.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/10205\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":10207,"href":"https:\/\/revistakuvendi.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/10205\/revisions\/10207"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/revistakuvendi.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/10206"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/revistakuvendi.org\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=10205"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/revistakuvendi.org\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=10205"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/revistakuvendi.org\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=10205"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}